Ambivalence means simultaneously loving and hating. While these feelings can often lead to passive behavior, they don’t necessarily have to. Part of being a woman, and dare I say, a feminist, is about advocating for a woman’s right to choose; this, however, does not have to imply that there is only one choice. I believe it is more important to create one’s own choices instead of trying to fit into the ones that have been decided by a society that denies its own sexist tendencies. My choice is not to choose, but to remain in-between, creating a space where conflicting feelings are confronted and reevaluated through the sharing of anonymous ambivalent notes and stickers left in public spaces and posted online.
Inspired by the D-I-Y zines of the Riot Grrrl movement, and the feminist understanding that the personal is political, my small acts of rebellion as Ambivalently Yours are meant as conversation starters, acts of compassion and examples of active ambivalence.
I can’t always make up my mind,
but I am boldly undecided.